Essay. Forgiveness and rencocilation. TOEFL

 

It is not a secret that people can feel anger, resentment, and hatred among other things because of the conflicts that they may face in a relationship. This is why we should know about forgiveness and reconciliation. We could solve our problems easily and go on with our lives. In addition, it is very significant that the communities learn about these methods so that they can face their challenges and accomplish their goals. I would like to talk about forgiveness and reconciliation in the subsequent paragraphs to illustrate more about this matter. 

Forgiveness is an individual process. Sometimes people say that they are not able to forgive others. However, forgiveness benefits us more than the other person. I know that individuals can cause a lot of damage towards us and we can suffer from those situations. But, it is our choice to let those memories affect us or not. We can remember without resentment and hatred and heal the wounds caused by our aggressor. It may take time and it involves a process of understanding why the person acted in that manner. Everyone is not perfect and they could have had a hard story. People often act according to how they were raised. Therefore, we need to understand their behavior and forgive what they have done to us.

On the other hand, reconciliation is a process that may include other individuals. Some people will not want to have a new relationship with someone who hurt them and this is okay. You can forgive and choose not to reconcile with your offender. There are three kinds of reconciliation: coexistence, connivance and communion. They can vary according to how close your new relationship is going to be. Maybe you will not want to know anything about the other individual; therefore, this reconciliation is called coexistence. In contrast, if you want to have a close relationship with them, it is called communion reconciliation.

Reconciliation implies recognizing the values and principles that were affected in the aggression. Hence, dialogue is very important since you can speak about the new terms of the relationship. You can also speak about how the other person is going to restore the damage that they caused. You need to work on yourself too so that you can restore the sociality and the love for yourself that were affected by the aggression. Finally, you can celebrate. You can learn from the bad situations of the past and enjoy the good ones.

Forgiveness and reconciliation are two important processes. Many people do not know how to face the bad situations that they may face in life. Therefore, we need to spread this knowledge so that they can get success in their lives.